Frequently asked questions

January 18, 2013Posted by Cat

 

What is Fires of Venus?
Can I bring my kids or my pets to the event?
When can I arrive and when do I have to be offsite?
What are the cabins like?
Can my group get its own cabin?
Are there any private cabins?
If I stay in a tent, what do I do for bathrooms?
Is there a discount for staying in a tent?
What is a day pass?
Can I bring my RV/Trailer?
Can I park my car by my cabin/tent site?
What if I forget something at home? Are there stores near the site?
Can I bring beer, wine, mead, etc. to gathering?
Why do I have to wear a wristband/nametag?
Do I need a credit card to register on-line?
I don't belong to a group; can I still come?
Does it cost extra to attend the workshops?
Are the presentations open to everyone?
Is it okay to have public sex at the event? How about public BDSM scenes?
Can I get there by public transportation?
What should I bring?
What's the photography and cell phone policy?
Will my cell phone work?
Is there internet access?
How can I join the staff? Can I get a discount if I become staff?
What do I do if I want to present a workshop?
What are the workshops like?
How can I stay in touch with my fellow attendees?

What is Fires of Venus?
Fires of Venus is, to our knowledge, the only sacred sexuality fire event in the country. Maybe in the world. People come from all over the US and other countries as well to experience the magic of our Fires and live in community with other devotees of Love.

Can I bring my kids or my pets to the event?
This event is an Adults Only event, so if they are over the age of 18, sure. As for pets, the site, unfortunately, does not allow them. If you have a service animal, please email us so we can note that on your registration record.

When can I arrive and when do I have to be offsite?

You can arrive any time after 2 pm on Friday. If you bought a day pass, it is good for from when check-in opens each day (2pm on Friday, 10am on Saturday and Sunday) till when it opens the next day. We do not provide housing for those with day passes. If you are still on-site when check-in opens for the next day, you will have to pay for another day pass. We must all be cleaned up and packed out by 11 am on Monday, so please plan accordingly! If you are staying through to Free Spirit Gathering, you will need to find their staff members to check in and move your belongings to your new housing assignment for that event on Monday.

What are the cabins like?
All cabins have shared, dormitory-style sleeping rooms and a large shared bathroom. The cabins have electricity, lighting and ceiling fans, hot and cold water, showers and flush toilets. The beds all have single mattresses and we have been informed by camp that they have all been updated to Tempurpedic brand mattresses as of Spring 2013! The new beds, we are told, can easily be put together to form king sized beds. Bring your own linens and pillow or sleeping bag. Some attendees bring air mattresses to put on the mattresses. This is fine, but please be sure to put the beds back where they were when you arrived.

Can my group get its own cabin?
Yes. You'll need to fill the entire cabin to have it for your exclusive use, though. At FoV, most cabins have 10 beds in them. Even if you don't have enough people to take an entire cabin, we can put your group together in the same cabin. If you want to get a group cabin you should drop a line to the Registrar and register your group early.

Are there any private cabins?
All cabins have shared sleeping rooms with single beds and a large shared bathroom. If sharing a cabin isn't something you want to do, we suggest that you opt to bring a tent. Many people do. At some events we do have a few private rooms available for an extra fee, but they usually sell out very quickly, so we suggest your register early for your best chance of getting one.

If I stay in a tent, what do I do for bathrooms?
All the bathrooms in the cabins are open to all attendees, so you would pick the cabin closest to you and shower, etc there. There are also several bathrooms throughout the camp. There is also a shower house with laundry facility located between cabins 4 and 5.

Is there a discount for staying in a tent?
Not at Fires of Venus.

What is a day pass?
With a day pass you can arrive when registration opens and stay late into the evening. You can attend any of the workshops, presentations, etc. You can't spend the night, so you can't bring a tent or request cabin space. A day pass is good for only one day. If you are staying offsite and would like to attend more than one day, you must register for the event and select commuting as your housing. There is no discount for commuting because the site doesn't charge us differently if you do so.

Can I bring my RV/Trailer?
We can accommodate a limited number of RVs and trailers at the event. Full-size RVs (anything larger than 3000 lb) must, however, remain in the parking lot. If you're planning to bring yours, you should drop an email to the Registrar. Please note that your RV needs to be completely self-contained, as we have no hookups for electricity or water. Also, if your generator makes too much noise, we may have to ask that you not run it during all or part of the day.

Can I park my car by my cabin/tent site?
No. You may drive your car to your cabin/tent site to load in and load out, but we ask that you take your car back to the parking lot when you're done. If it's been wet, we may restrict onsite driving to paved areas. If you must car-tent, plan to do so in the parking lot. If you are mobility-impaired, we would prefer to provide you with a radio to help you obtain rides on one of our golf carts rather than have you park on-site.

What if I forget something at home? Are there stores near the site?
While the site is secluded, you can get just about anything you need or might have forgotten within a 20-minute drive. There are several outlets for beer, wine etc; two good-sized supermarkets, a Wal-Mart, Target, and Home Depot.

Can I bring beer, wine, liquor, etc. to gathering?
Of course. As long as you are over 21, are responsible, and don't give any to anyone under 21 years old. However, overt and excessive intoxication or giving alcohol to those under 21 will get you ejected from the event without a refund.

Why do I have to wear a wristband and name badge?
Wristbands and nametags let us know that you are an attendee and belong on site. If you are found without a wristband and name badge outside of your lodging, you will be escorted to registration for a replacement. They also let folks know who's over/under 21 for alcohol-related activities. If you are in doubt about the age of your potential drinking companion, ask to see their wristband.

Do I need a credit card to register on-line?
You can only use a credit or debit card to register for our events. One way people have gotten around this is to purchase a pre-paid Visa or Master Card gift card and use that to register. If you are having trouble with this, please feel free to contact us.

I don't belong to a group; can I still come?
Of course! While we do have several groups who make the event an annual outing, most of our attendees are not part of a group. Everyone is welcome to attend regardless of group affiliation or spiritual path. In fact, a whole section of our housing is devoted to those who are attending the event as singles. And we have designated couples housing as well. If you are single but would prefer to stay in the couples/group housing, you are welcome to designate that when you are registering, too.

Does it cost extra to attend the workshops?
Generally, no, except for a few workshops that charge a materials fee. These workshops are clearly marked in the program book.

Are the presentations open to everyone?
All presentations listed in the program book are open to event attendees. In addition to the published rituals, there are often smaller rituals that are held by individual groups. Often these are open to the public, however on occasion they are private. If you are in doubt, ask before assuming.

Is it okay to have public sex at the event?
The short answer is 'yes.' It is okay to have public sex at the event because it is a sex-friendly event. However (you knew there was a catch, right?), we ask that you be considerate of others when having your public sex. For example, if your cabin is full of sleeping people, and you decide to have loud sex and wake everyone up, no one except you is going to be happy. And that's going to make the organizers of the event unhappy, too, and we're likely to pass our unhappiness along to you in the form of either interrupting you or later asking you to apologize and not do it again. So be considerate of your 'audience' when having public sex.

Can I get there by public transportation?
Yes. There are taxis that run from the bus/train stations at Aberdeen and the Perryville bus station. The cost to the site is about $30. More information regarding public transportation, including getting here by air, can be found on our accommodations Info page.

What should I bring?
Check our Packing page here.

What's the photography and cell phone policy?
Photography and cell phone use is allowed at our event, with the following limitations: For the privacy and safety of all of our attendees, you must have the explicit permission of all people in any photograph or recording, including those in the background. You may not take pictures within the ritual space at all. Photography and/or audio/video recording of those who have not given explicit permission is not allowed, and will result in immediate removal from the event without refund and erasure of said media. Out of common courtesy we ask that if you must talk on your cell phone, you do not use it in any public areas such as the ritual space, workshops, poolside, dining hall, HQ, etc. This policy may be overridden or altered by event-specific circumstances, so please check the Event Rules for any exceptions to this policy.

Will my cell phone work?
Depending on your provider, you will probably have some level of service on site. You may find you have more luck with texting than with voice calls.

Is there internet access?
There is sometimes wifi service at Ramblewood, but it's iffy.

How can I join the staff? Can I get a discount if I become staff?
We are always looking for a few more people, so depending upon your qualifications, we might be able to find a job for you. Your first step will be to fill out an application form here. Depending on your level of involvement at the event, you may be offered a discount on your registration fee.

What do I do if I want to present a workshop?
We no longer accept workshop submissions through the website. If you have workshops you'd like to propose, you can send them, along with a bio, to our Presenter Liaison.

What are the workshops like?
We have very few workshops at Fires of Venus, and they are tailored to the theme of the event, wildly varying from year to year. We prefer to focus upon the rituals, themselves, and on projects we do for the community.

How can I stay in touch with my fellow attendees?
You can join our group on FetLife (and RSVP here). We are in the process of building a Mixxt network, which you will receive information on when it is available.